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Why I Almost Let My Husband Go

January 30, 2022 Insights Lifestyle
Why I Almost Let My Husband Go

When I was in my 20s, dating meant showing off my achievements to the guys that I went out with.

At the young age of 24, I was already in the senior management at my job and had a car, which at the time meant I certainly appeared very ‘successful’, at least in conventional terms. Needless to say, the young men I was going out with always seemed (at least to me) less accomplished in comparison.

To emphasise the point, on dates I would place my car keys on the table – which subtly (or not) gave my dates the impression that spelled “Hey, I’m successful”

When I was dating my then-boyfriend, now husband (Joel), that mentality persisted. I always had that constant feeling that I was ‘settling’ for someone less.

At the time, I already ran my own company and he wasn’t earning anywhere near what I was bringing in. In my mind, I surmised that I had a ‘deep’ understanding of politics, world history, and astrology, – all topics which he had zero interest in and it seemed to me that he was ignorant and unworldly.

You may be thinking; “Why is May sharing this?”

I share my story because I know that I am not alone.

Over years of teaching and seeing clients and collaborating with dating services, I’ve come across many other women who are just like this: snobbish, arrogant and think that the guys they are dating with are far below their standards.

There is a Psychological Astrology (PA) profile that describes this exact behaviour, known as ‘The Teacher’, or what my PA students know as the ‘Sun-Jupiter’ profile. It is common for lots of women (and men) who have this profile in their astrology charts, including myself, to display this arrogance, and not just in our dating lives, but also at work, in personal interactions, etc.

However, it was working with this profile in my chart that I came to terms with my arrogance, and how my worldview had doomed men to never measuring up to me and doomed myself to never ever to be in a fulfilling relationship.

The truth is: I wanted a smart and wise man, but couldn’t accept the possibility that someone could actually know more, be more ‘correct’ than me.

The turning point in this story was when I became willing to truly listen to him; I discovered a deep generosity and wisdom in him that I knew would take a lifetime for me to even learn and understand. I am now proud to be Mrs. Joel Li, and there are parts to my husband that I know I barely measure up to.

PA profiles can be instrumental in understanding our personal barriers to rewarding relationships. But what many fail to realise, is that the problem is seldom not with the other person, but more likely the issue is with us.

Each profile comes with its own set of challenges, such as ‘The Teacher’ with their arrogance, ‘The Bohemian’ with their misguided ideas about commitment and freedom, ‘The Activist’ with preconceived ideas about the alignment of beliefs with their partners…. the list goes on.

Hundreds of students from more than 16 countries have studied PA with us, and it never fails to amaze them with the power of addressing their own PAs to build a rewarding and fulfilling life. We invite you to embark on this journey with us.

Our students go through the Beginner’s Introduction to Astrology Course first, to learn to read astrology charts, before going on to do the Psychological Astrology Course.

Click on the link below to find out more and upcoming course dates. Should you have any further questions, feel free to contact us at: +65 8138 3615.

PA is a lot more about knowing about yourself. It’s about becoming better versions of ourselves.

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