27 Jan Valentine’s Special: Venus in Your Chart
Venus – the goddess of love, beauty, sex, fertility, prosperity.
How do you act when you’re in love? Heck, what gets you to fall in love in the first place? May talks about how the placement of Venus describes your approach to the game of L.O.V.E.
Note: These descriptions are not for your Sun signs, they’re for your Venus signs. Don’t know your Venus sign? Try going to www.alabe.com/freechart to generate your chart for free, or email me here with your birth details and I’ll be happy to email you a copy of your chart.
Venus in Aries
Why They Love You: You’re outgoing and you sparkle at social events. Chances are, your creativity in artistic pursuits paints you as an exciting and active personality! You’re passionate in love and romance and people won’t be left in any doubt that you’re totally into them – and who doesn’t want to be wanted?
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: Whoa, did that woman just come on to me? Competitive, direct Venus in Aries has no qualms about making the first move, but pssst… sometimes guys lie when they say they want the woman to take the initiative *hint*. Other times, though, your affections are impulsive and unstable – the fire doesn’t burn steady for long
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): You like strong, independent, physically active types. You don’t even mind if she’s a bit loud – after she’s just so full of life it’s hard to keep quiet about it. Be sure you bring enough of your own fire to the relationship – she expects it of her man.
Venus in Taurus
Why They Love You: Steady and loyal, you would rather attract than pursue your loved one. You have a developed sense of touch, so they love it that you’re so physically affectionate. Beauty is a major factor of your self-expression – you always make sure yourself, your home, your office, looks good, and that can be really attractive.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: All that beauty doesn’t come cheap: your expenditures can get high and in extreme cases you could be high maintenance. Emotional security is so important that if it ever get threatened, you could be possessive and jealous. Comfort is #1 for you, if a relationship isn’t comfortable anymore, you’ll seek it elsewhere, but you won’t leave your relationship because you don’t like change.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Taurus is about beauty in physical form – little wonder a pretty face does wonders for this guy and if he’ll admit it, so do boobs (physical structure, beauty, geddit?) But it’s not just sexual attraction, cos the Venus in Taurus guy is looking for someone who’s gonna be a good child-bearer of his.
Venus in Gemini
Why They Love You: You’re witty, social and conversational, and people are drawn to your agile mind and intellect. You’re an expert on artistic expression, especially if it involves word play or jokes with puns. You’re so easy to approach because you’re friendly with everyone, and you’re not difficult to talk to cos you never run of out words. For that reason you’re also probably king/queen of whatsapp flirting.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: So many choices, so little time. Relationships sound so restrictive because you can only pick ONE. Eventually you do settle on one, but you can’t always help that wondering eye because all these yummy alternative options keep showing up! You secretly think life would be easier if you all just remained friends.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): I’ll say this for these guys – they have original tastes. Venus in Gemini men aren’t into your body (yes they do get distracted by the curvy ones sometimes… but), they are actually into your brains. Their lady should be a witty conversationalist, and instead of the Scarlett Johanssen type, they probably prefer the athletic, skinny types. A perky and outgoing (even tomboyish) personality also turns them on.
Venus in Cancer
Why They Love You: You’re the marrying type – financial and domestic security – what’s not to like? Your homes are beautiful and comfortable, so partners truly feel like they’re home when they’re with you. You also like home-based dates (movies at home, dinners at home), so that means your date can usually save some money (hee hee). You’re probably a good cook or are maternal in some way – perfect if he’s looking for a mother of his kids.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: You’re sensitive, and this means you get easily hurt. Emotional reactions can be unpredictable, and less patient partners won’t have time to get over the sulks. You want a family, and tension can build if the partner isn’t ready for that level of commitment.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Your tastes are more traditional, and perhaps more real. You’re not interested in glamour, in fact you see plenty of beauty in homely types (though she scores major points if she’s booby). Between slightly overweight and skinny, you’d probably pick the former. Between a good cook and a brainy woman, you’ll choose gastronomic security every time.
Venus in Leo
Why They Love You: You’re a lover of life, and appreciate the drama that goes with it. Expensive, lavish parties are your forte and people come forth to bask in your warmth. You know just what to do to get the admiration and attention of others. Romance and courtship comes naturally to you, and partners who make an effort in this regard are seldom disappointed by your reactions.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: There’s a snobbish streak just under all that sunny warmth, and if at any time your partner isn’t someone you’re proud to show off, beware the diva. You’re undoubtedly the king/queen, but even your loyal subjects deserve appreciation sometimes, and you can’t expect royal treatment 24/7. You’re incredibly loyal though, and sometimes won’t let go of a relationship even if they break up with you.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Polished is the word. If a King searches for his queen, she’d better look the part, and you’re sensible enough to know that au naturel doesn’t get her there, so you prefer the made-up, dressed-up types over the homely kind. You like to entertain, so she gets extra points if she knows how to orchestrate the royal procession – with you at the head of it of course.
Venus in Virgo
Why They Love You: You have great appreciation for the intellectual and work achievements of others, so hard-working and competent people gravitate to you. People might as well get used to hanging out in your workplace, because you spend so much time there, and also because it’s more comfortable than your actual home. You’re very helpful and know how to offer just what is needed from you, plus you’re also very open to improvement tips from others.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: We know you’re trying to help by pointing out where they have room for improvement, but nobody likes hearing where they’re not perfect. When it comes to manners, personal appearance and hygiene, most people are slobs compared to you.
*On occasion a Venus in Virgo persons shows up to be the exact opposite – promiscuous, or they’re terrible slobs. If you’re one of them, I’d like to study your chart – please email me here
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): You like the quiet, bookish types who look like competent librarians, because the more dressed-up ones seem impractical and flighty. Beware – if you go for people who seem kinda lost, make sure you’re not in it cos you just wanna fix them.
Venus in Libra
Why They Love You: You’re beautiful, and marriage, social relations are extremely important to you – romantic opportunities tend to follow accordingly. You need a lot of harmony, so you seldom start fights or disagreements. Fairness is important to you, so you’re happy to carry your side of responsibilities for the relationship.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: When blissful harmony is affected by disagreements, you tend to go along with things just to restore the peace. Be careful of compromising your values, because that’s never a long-term solution. Also you like partners to be real smooth in public situations – and not all guys can meet your standards of ‘refined gentleman’.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Pretty faces. Gets you every time.
Venus in Scorpio
Why They Love You: Hot smouldering sexuality is your hallmark, but really, your approach is passionate and once committed, there’s almost nothing you wouldn’t do for your partner. Actually the ones who get attracted to you can’t always explain why – they’re just lured in by your magnetism.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: When passions run so high, sometimes you don’t operate on reason anymore. Betrayal and jealousy kick in sometimes, mainly cos you take love and romance so seriously. On occasion you get upset enough to cut others off entirely – eliminating the possibility of reinstating your relationships. You find yourself getting emotional BDSM – it’s almost as if love without pain isn’t love.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Mysterious, silent, controlled, powerful, confident. You can’t resist sexy ladies dressed in black.
Venus in Sagittarius
Why They Love You: You’re honest and open with your relationship – your principles and ethical standards are never compromised, though unusual relationships don’t scare you. You enjoy travel, and it’s not unusual for you to find romantic partners while on your travels. If your date is adventurous, they won’t be disappointed cos you’re willing to try all kinds of activities.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: For people who are so otherwise open-minded you can be incredibly pig-headed when it comes to beliefs (sometimes religious, sometimes not) – be careful of imposing your belief systems on your partners. In another sphere, you believe in honesty, but the bluntness is sometimes too much for others to handle. Signs that are more sensitive (read the whole article for clues) will feel unloved by you.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): The carefree wild child is your girl. Athletic is in, fat is tricky. You have strong sexual stamina ad you wanna make sure she can keep up.
Venus in Capricorn
Why They Love You: You know the right behaviour in almost any situation, so you’re seldom socially awkward. Capricorn rules the bones, and you’re typically blessed with a classic facial bone structure which confers a beauty that lasts well into old age. Significant age gaps between you and the partners aren’t uncommon, so partners don’t have to worry on that account. You’re a steady partner because you take responsibility seriously.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: Your standards are high when it comes to prestige; lesser mortals may feel keenly that you’re not too impressed by them. The emotional types may also find difficulty connecting to you emotionally, with the complaint that you’re too professional and cold in your approach. Venus in Capricorn types sometimes don’t feel that they can start a relationship until their careers are on track.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): A woman who’s worthy of queening your empire, of course. You like traditionally classy girls, and definitely can’t resist a girl in a smart business suit. If you have a boss or secretary who fits the bill, that’s the one you want. Having said that, when you’re stressed out at work, almost anyone looks attractive to you.
Venus in Aquarius
Why They Love You: You sparkle and you bubble and your sense of fun is unconventional – consequently you also seem to like ingenious or eccentric people. Romantic partners should be friends first and foremost.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: Freedom is a biggie for Venus in Aquarius, and won’t tolerate partners who get jealous or possessive easily. Your loving nature is unpredictable and it’s possible that attractions can happen as well as disappear suddenly. Marriage can thus be hard to sustain, but Aquarius being a fixed sign, is capable of commitment if the partner is someone they truly respect.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): Unique, strange, quirky – they work best for you.
Venus in Pisces
Why They Love You: Romantic and sensitive, you believe in true love, and won’t allow anyone else to tell you otherwise. You’re highly capable of sympathy and that’s why you’re the consummate nice guy.
Why Love Gets Rocky Sometimes: You need clear demonstrations of love and affection from others, else you feel lonely and disappointed. Your sympathetic nature sometimes attracts those who take advantage of you. The extreme fear of rejection means you hesitate to risk expressing your feelings, so you suffer your love in silence, hence missing romantic opportunities. Take care that you don’t indulge in maudlin sentimentality for lovers who are undeserving of your devotion.
Who’s Your Venus (If You’re A Man): You like softness, sweetness, even neediness – as long as she’s the epitome of femininity. Robustness and aggressiveness not required; in fact you’re more attracted when she’s not very confident.
Disclaimer: Each person is more than just a Venus sign, a myriad of factors determine how one operates. An astrologer will need to put degrees, houses positions and aspects into the mix to get a full picture of how anyone operates in relationships.
That’s Part 1 of my Valentine’s Special… stay tuned for Part 2 ‘Mars in Your Chart’
Questions? Or if want to get a clearer look at your natal chart, contact May at firstname.lastname@example.org