Most people just live life as it comes.
They do their jobs, run their homes, manage their resources and their relationships.
We are told all our lives what constitutes ‘success’, and many of our goals are set, benchmarks are assessed, activities are scheduled according to a generally cookie-cutter mould that more or less everyone else follows.
Few actually realise that this life is not always what they personally want.
Over time, we lose bits and pieces of ourselves.
We accept jobs that aren’t rewarding, and we stay because the job pays the bills.
We overlook bad behaviours and hidden problems in relationships, because having one is better than having none.
We take on back-breaking responsibilities, because saying ‘no’ is socially unacceptable.
We set goals to earn more and more money, because apparently having more money = happiness.
We feel pressured to keep ‘upgrading’, to keep up with others who are doing it too.
We turn our back on hobbies and creative interests, because it’s indulgent and doesn’t contribute to career and professional results.
Over time, we forget what we envisioned when we got started.
Over time, even if you remember your original vision, your confidence in your ability to pursue it seems to languish lower and lower.
Over time, we settle for a lesser life.
How to break out of this pattern?